Presentation on the topic of the role of the child in the family. Raising children in a family, presentation for a lesson on the topic. Formula for true parental love

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Conclusion

Thus, a child in a family is an inexhaustible source of vital impulses and emotional stimulants for parents. And the desire to develop in your child abilities that will help him enter a new life painlessly encourages adults to constantly work on themselves. It is not for nothing that many great teachers believed that family education is, first of all, the self-education of parents: it is very difficult to instill in a child those qualities that you yourself do not possess, and to wean them from those that you constantly demonstrate.

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Chinese proverb: “Good family”

Once upon a time there lived a family. She was not simple. There were more than 100 people in this family. And she occupied the whole village. This is how the whole family and the whole village lived. You will say: so what, you never know there are many big families in the world, but the fact is that the family was a special world, and harmony reigned in that family and, therefore, in the village. No quarrels, no swearing, no, God forbid, fights and strife.

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Rumors about this family reached the very ruler of the country. And he decided to check whether people were telling the truth. He arrived in the village, and his soul rejoiced: all around was purity, beauty, prosperity and peace. Good for children, calm for old people. The lord was surprised. I decided to find out how the villagers achieved such harmony, and came to the head of the family; Tell me, how do you achieve such harmony and peace in your family.

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He took a sheet of paper and began to write something. I wrote for a long time. Apparently, he was not very good at reading and writing. Then he handed the sheet to the bishop. He took the paper and began to sort out the old man’s scribbles. I took it apart with difficulty and was surprised. Three words were written on paper: LOVE, FORGIVENESS, PATIENCE. And at the end of the sheet: A hundred times LOVE, A hundred times FORGIVENESS, A hundred times PATIENCE.

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Love and appreciate your Family!

A.S. Makarenko wrote: “If you want good children, be happy.”

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List of sources

Rivina E.K. Introducing preschoolers to family and ancestry. M.: Mosaic - Synthesis, 2008. Vetokhina A.Ya. Parent meetings in the context of the transition to the Federal State Educational Standard. From: “Teacher” 2014. Dialogues about education: A book for parents / ed. V.N. Stoletova; M.: Pedagogy, 1985 Kovalev S.V. Psychology of the modern family. M.: Education, 1988 Culture of family relationships: Collection of articles. M., 1985 Selevko G.K., Selevko A.G. Find yourself. M.: Public Education, 2001 Education without offense - http://im0-tub-ru.yandex.net/i?id=87920543-38-72&n=21 Don’t hit a child - http://im4-tub-ru. yandex.net/i?id=52867184-21-72&n=21 Beating of children - http://im8-tub-ru.yandex.net/i?id=298518828-51-72&n=21 Family - http://school8mog .besthost.by/index.php?cstart=7&

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The role of the family in raising a child(Slide 1)

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Family is the cradle of a person’s spiritual birth

We are growing together as a family

The basis of the foundations is the parental home.

All your roots are in the family circle,

And you come out of this family into life.

In the family circle we create life,

The basis of the foundation is the parental home.

Traditionally, the main institution of education is the family. What a child acquires in the family during childhood, he retains throughout his entire subsequent life. The importance of the family as an educational institution is due to the fact that the child stays in it for a significant part of his life, and in terms of the duration of its impact on the individual, none of the educational institutions can compare with the family. It lays the foundations of the child’s personality, and by the time he enters school, he is already more than half formed as a person.

The family can act as both a positive and negative factor in education. The positive impact on the child’s personality is that no one, except the people closest to him in the family - mother, father, grandmother, grandfather, brother, sister, treats the child better, loves him and cares so much about him. And at the same time, no other social institution can potentially cause as much harm in raising children as a family can do.

The family is a special kind of collective that plays a basic, long-term and most important role in education. Anxious mothers often have anxious children; ambitious parents often suppress their children so much that this leads to the appearance of an inferiority complex; an unrestrained father who loses his temper at the slightest provocation often, without knowing it, forms a similar type of behavior in his children, etc.

In connection with the special educational role of the family, the question arises of how to maximize the positive and minimize the negative influences of the family on the upbringing of the child. To do this, it is necessary to accurately determine intrafamily socio-psychological factors that have educational significance.

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The main thing in raising a little person is to achieve spiritual unity, a moral connection between parents and child. In no case should parents let the upbringing process take its course and at an older age, leave the matured child alone with himself.

It is in the family that the child receives his first life experience, makes his first observations and learns how to behave in various situations. It is very important that what we teach a child is supported by specific examples, so that he can see that in adults, theory does not diverge from practice. (If your child sees that his mom and dad, who tell him every day that lying is wrong, without noticing it themselves, deviate from this rule, all upbringing can go down the drain.)

Family values ​​in the family:

• MUTUAL revenue
• Understanding
• MUTUAL RESPECT
• MUTUALlove
• MUTUAL CONSENT

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Family communication:

• Family communication is the attitude of family members towards each other and their interaction;
• exchange of information between them, their spiritual contact;

The range of communication in a family can be very diverse. In addition to conversations about work, household chores, the lives of friends and acquaintances, it includes discussions of issues related to raising children, art, politics, etc.

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Parents' tasks:

• creating confidence in the child that he is loved and cared for;
• treat your child at any age lovingly and attentively;
• constant psychological contact with the child;
• interest in everything that happens in the child’s life

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In communication, adults and children develop the following principles of communication:
1) Acceptance of the child, i.e. the child is accepted for who he is.

2) Empathy (sympathy) - an adult looks at problems through the eyes of a child and accepts his position.

3) Congruence. It assumes an adequate attitude on the part of an adult to what is happening.

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Parents may love a child for no reason, despite the fact that he is ugly, not smart, and neighbors complain about him. The child is accepted for who he is. (Unconditional love)

Perhaps parents love it when the child meets their expectations. when he studies and behaves well. but if the child does not satisfy those needs, then the child is, as it were, rejected, the attitude changes for the worse. This brings significant difficulties, the child is not confident in his parents, he does not feel the emotional security that should be there from infancy. (conditional love)

The child may not be accepted by the parents at all. He is indifferent to them and may even be rejected by them (for example, a family of alcoholics). But maybe in a prosperous family (for example, he was not long-awaited, there were serious problems, etc.) the parents do not necessarily realize this. But there are purely subconscious moments (for example, the mother is beautiful, but the girl is ugly and withdrawn. The child annoys her.

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Types of family relationships

Each family objectively develops a certain system of upbringing that is not always conscious of it. Here we mean an understanding of the goals of education, the formulation of its tasks, and a more or less targeted application of methods and techniques of education, taking into account what can and cannot be allowed in relation to the child. Four tactics of upbringing in the family can be distinguished and four types of family relationships corresponding to them, which are both a prerequisite and a result of their occurrence: dictate, guardianship, “non-interference” and cooperation.

Diktat in the family is manifested in the systematic behavior of some family members (mainly adults) and the initiative and self-esteem of other family members.

Family guardianship is a system of relationships in which parents, while ensuring through their work that all the child’s needs are met, protect him from any worries, efforts and difficulties, taking them upon himself. The question of active personality formation fades into the background. At the center of educational influences is another problem - meeting the child’s needs and protecting him from difficulties. Parents, in fact, block the process of seriously preparing their children to face reality beyond the threshold of their home. It is these children who turn out to be more unadapted to life in a group. According to psychological observations, it is precisely this category of adolescents that produces the largest number of breakdowns during adolescence. It is these children, who seem to have nothing to complain about, who begin to rebel against excessive parental care. If dictate implies violence, order, strict authoritarianism, then guardianship means care, protection from difficulties. However, the result is largely the same: children lack independence, initiative, they are somehow removed from resolving issues that personally concern them, and even more so general family problems.

The system of interpersonal relations in the family, built on the recognition of the possibility and even expediency of independent existence of adults from children, can be generated by the tactics of “non-interference.” It is assumed that two worlds can coexist: adults and children, and neither one nor the other should cross the line thus drawn. Most often, this type of relationship is based on the passivity of parents as educators.

Cooperation as a type of relationship in a family presupposes the mediation of interpersonal relationships in the family by common goals and objectives of joint activity, its organization and high moral values. It is in this situation that the child’s selfish individualism is overcome. A family where the leading type of relationship is cooperation acquires a special quality and becomes a group of a high level of development - a team.

The style of family education and the values ​​accepted in the family are of great importance in the development of self-esteem.

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3 styles of family education:

Democratic

Conniving

In a democratic style, the interests of the child are taken into account first. “Consent” style.

With the permissive style, the child is left to his own devices.

A child’s adequate and inappropriate behavior depends on the conditions of upbringing in the family. Children who have low self-esteem are dissatisfied with themselves. This happens in a family where parents constantly blame the child or set excessive goals for him. The child feels that he does not meet the requirements of his parents. (Do not tell your child that he is ugly; this creates complexes that are then impossible to get rid of.)

Inadequacy can also manifest itself with inflated self-esteem. This happens in a family where the child is often praised, and gifts are given for little things and achievements (the child gets used to material rewards). The child is punished very rarely, the system of demands is very soft.

Adequate representation - here we need a flexible system of punishment and praise. Admiration and praise with him are excluded. Gifts are rarely given for actions. Extreme harsh punishments are not used.

In families where children grow up with high, but not inflated, self-esteem, attention to the child’s personality (his interests, tastes, relationships with friends) is combined with sufficient demands. Here they do not resort to humiliating punishment and willingly praise when the child deserves it. Children with low self-esteem (not necessarily very low) enjoy greater freedom at home, but this freedom, in essence, is a lack of control, a consequence of parents’ indifference to their children and to each other.

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4 ways to support conflict situations:

1. Avoiding the problem (purely business communication)

2. Peace at any cost (for an adult, the relationship with a child is most valuable). By turning a blind eye to negative actions, an adult does not help the teenager, but, on the contrary, encourages the child’s negative forms of behavior.

3. Victory at any cost (an adult strives to win, trying to suppress unnecessary forms of child behavior. If he loses in one thing, he will strive to win in another. This situation is endless.)

4. Productive (compromise option). This option assumes partial victory in both camps. We definitely need to go towards this together, i.e. it must be the result of a joint decision.

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After their parents divorce, boys often become uncontrollable, lose self-control, and at the same time show increased anxiety. These characteristic behavioral traits are especially noticeable during the first months of life after divorce, and by two years after it they are smoothed out. The same pattern, but with less pronounced negative symptoms, is observed in the behavior of girls after their parents’ divorce.

Thus, in order to maximize the positive and minimize the negative influence of the family on the upbringing of a child, it is necessary to remember intra-family psychological factors that have educational significance:

o Take an active part in family life;

o Always find time to talk with your child;

o Take an interest in the child’s problems, delve into all the difficulties that arise in his life and help develop his skills and talents;

o Do not put any pressure on the child, thereby helping him make his own decisions;

o Have an understanding of the different stages in a child's life;

o Respect the child’s right to his own opinion;

o Be able to restrain possessive instincts and treat the child as an equal partner who simply has less life experience;

o Respect the desire of all other family members to pursue a career and improve themselves.

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Problems of family education:

• The lack of affection that our children experience;
• Child abuse syndrome is the behavior of parents towards a child, accompanied by physical, psychological and moral trauma;

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And a few more Rules for parents:

• Rule 1. - recognition of the child’s personality and his inviolability.
• Rule 2. - formation of adequate self-esteem.
• Rule 3. - introducing the child to the real affairs of the family.
• Rule 4. - develop the child's willpower.
• Rule 5. - learn to plan.
• Rule 6. - demand fulfillment of household duties and errands.
• Rule 7. - teach how to communicate with other children and people.
• Rule 8. - to form moral qualities: kindness, decency, sympathy, mutual assistance, responsibility.

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A.S. Makarenko wrote:

“If you want good children, be happy.”

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List of sources:

• Azarov Yu.P. Family pedagogy. M.: Politizdat, 1982
• Afanasyeva T.M. Family. M.: Enlightenment, 1985
• Dialogues about education: A book for parents / ed. V.N. Stoletova; M.: Pedagogy, 1985
• Kovalev S.V. Psychology of the modern family. M.: Education, 1988
• Culture of family relations: Collection of articles. M., 1985
• Selevko G.K., Selevko A.G. Find yourself. M.: Public education, 2001
• Parenting without offensehttp://im0-tub-ru.yandex.net/i?id=87920543-38-72&n=21
• Don't hit the child - http://im4-tub-ru.yandex.net/i?id=52867184-21-72&n=21
• Beating children - http://im8-tub-ru.yandex.net/i?id=298518828-51-72&n=21
• Family - http://school8mog.besthost.by/index.php?cstart=7&
• Family school of love - http://900igr.net/kartinki/obschestvoznanie/Semja-1/116-Ljubvi.html

Family values ​​IN LONG revenue understanding respect love agreement

Communication in the family Communication in the family is the attitude of family members towards each other and their interaction; exchange of information between them, their spiritual contact; The range of communication in a family can be very diverse. In addition to conversations about work, household chores, the lives of friends and acquaintances, it includes discussions of issues related to raising children, art, politics, etc.

The tasks of parents are to create confidence in the child that he is loved and cared for; treat your child at any age lovingly and attentively; constant psychological contact with the child; interest in everything that happens in the child’s life

Principles of communication: Acceptance of the child. Empathy (sympathy) Congruence.

The formula for true parental love is “I love you not because you are good,” but “I love you because you exist.”

Types of family relationships: dictate, guardianship, “non-interference,” cooperation.

Family education style: democratic authoritarian permissive

Ways to support conflict situations: Avoiding the problem Peace at any cost Victory at any cost Productive (compromise option).

Intrafamily psychological factors: Take an active part in family life; Always find time to talk with your child; Take an interest in the child’s problems, delve into all the difficulties that arise in his life and help develop his skills and talents; Do not put any pressure on the child, thereby helping him make his own decisions;

Have an understanding of the different stages in a child's life; Respect the child’s right to his own opinion; Be able to restrain possessive instincts and treat the child as an equal partner who simply has less life experience; Respect the desire of all other family members to pursue a career and improve themselves.

The lack of affection that our children experience; Child abuse syndrome is the behavior of parents towards a child, accompanied by physical, psychological and moral trauma; Problems of family education

Rules for parents Rule 1. - recognition of the child’s personality and his integrity. Rule 2. - formation of adequate self-esteem. Rule 3. - introducing the child to the real affairs of the family. Rule 4. - develop the child's willpower. Rule 5. - learn to plan. Rule 6. - do not demand the fulfillment of household duties and errands. Rule 7. - teach how to communicate with other children and people. Rule 8. - to form moral qualities: kindness, decency, empathy, mutual assistance, responsibility.

Love and appreciate your Family! A.S. Makarenko wrote: “If you want good children, be happy.”

List of sources Azarov Yu.P. Family pedagogy. M.: Politizdat, 1982 Afanasyeva T.M. Family. M.: Enlightenment, 1985 Dialogues about education: A book for parents / ed. V.N. Stoletova; M.: Pedagogy, 1985 Kovalev S.V. Psychology of the modern family. M.: Education, 1988 Culture of family relationships: Collection of articles. M., 1985 Selevko G.K., Selevko A.G. Find yourself. M.: Public Education, 2001 Education without offense - http://im0-tub-ru.yandex.net/i?id=87920543-38-72&n=21 Don’t hit a child - http://im4-tub-ru. yandex.net/i?id=52867184-21-72&n=21 Beating of children - http://im8-tub-ru.yandex.net/i?id=298518828-51-72&n=21 Family - http://school8mog .besthost.by/index.php?cstart=7& Family school of love - http://900igr.net/kartinki/obschestvoznanie/Semja-1/116-Ljubvi.html

Thank you for your attention!

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Parent meeting Topic: “Family and school. The role of the family in raising a child"

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The family is the cradle of a person’s spiritual birth. In the family circle, you and I are growing. The foundation is the parental home. All your roots are in the family circle, And you come into life from this family. In the family circle we create life, the basis of the foundation is the parental home.

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Communication in the family Communication in the family is the attitude of family members towards each other and their interaction; exchange of information between them, their spiritual contact; The range of communication in a family can be very diverse. In addition to conversations about work, household chores, the lives of friends and acquaintances, it includes discussions of issues related to raising children, art, politics, etc.

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The tasks of parents are to create confidence in the child that he is loved and cared for; treat your child at any age lovingly and attentively; constant psychological contact with the child; interest in everything that happens in the child’s life

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The formula for true parental love is “I love you not because you are good,” but “I love you because you exist.”

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The lack of affection that our children experience; Child abuse syndrome is the behavior of parents towards a child, accompanied by physical, psychological and moral trauma; Problems of family education

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Rules for parents Rule 1. - recognition of the child’s personality and his integrity. Rule 2. - formation of adequate self-esteem. Rule 3. - introducing the child to the real affairs of the family. Rule 4. - develop the child's willpower. Rule 5. - learn to plan. Rule 6. - demand fulfillment of household duties and errands. Rule 7. - teach how to communicate with other children and people. Rule 8. - to form moral qualities: kindness, decency, sympathy, mutual assistance, responsibility.

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Love and appreciate your Family! A.S. Makarenko wrote: “If you want good children, be happy.”

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List of sources Azarov Yu.P. Family pedagogy. M.: Politizdat, 1982 Afanasyeva T.M. Family. M.: Enlightenment, 1985 Dialogues about education: A book for parents / ed. V.N. Stoletova; M.: Pedagogy, 1985 Kovalev S.V. Psychology of the modern family. M.: Education, 1988 Culture of family relationships: Collection of articles. M., 1985 Selevko G.K., Selevko A.G. Find yourself. M.: Public Education, 2001 Education without offense - http://im0-tub-ru.yandex.net/i?id=87920543-38-72&n=21 Don’t hit a child - http://im4-tub-ru. yandex.net/i?id=52867184-21-72&n=21 Beating of children - http://im8-tub-ru.yandex.net/i?id=298518828-51-72&n=21 Family - http://school8mog .besthost.by/index.php?cstart=7& Family school of love - http://900igr.net/kartinki/obschestvoznanie/Semja-1/116-Ljubvi.html

APPENDIX 2 Parent meeting

"The role of the family

in raising a child"

Prepared by:

social teacher

Novosvetskaya secondary school

I-III stages

Zakharchuk O.V.

2015

The family is traditionally the main institution of education.

We are growing together as a family

The basis of the foundations is the parental home.

All your roots are in the family circle,

And you come out of this family into life.

In the family circle we create life,

The basis of the foundation is the parental home.

EDUCATION TACTICS

Diktat - initiative taken by family members

Family care - parents try in every possible way to protect their child from various difficulties, problems and try to satisfy all his needs.

(mostly adults) and suppressing the desires and initiatives of others.

"Non-interference" - parents do not delve into the child’s problems, giving him the opportunity to solve his problems himself.

Cooperation - involves joint activities and pastime.

Family values

revenue

ZAIMO

understanding

respect

Love

agreement

• Family communication is the attitude of family members towards each other and their interaction;
• exchange of information between them, their spiritual contact;
• The range of communication in a family can be very diverse. In addition to conversations about work, household chores, the lives of friends and acquaintances, it includes discussions of issues related to raising children, art, politics, etc.

STYLES FAMILY EDUCATION

1. Democratic – “consent”;

3. Liberal - the child is left to his own devices.

“All the good things that connect me with the world around me are connected with my family.”

V. Humboldt

• Always take an active part in family life.
• Take time to talk with your child.
• Take an interest in the child’s problems, delve into all his difficulties.
• Help develop abilities and talents.
• Do not put pressure on the child. Thus helping him make decisions on his own.
• Have an understanding of the different stages of a child's life.
• Respect your child's right to his own opinion.
• Treat your child as an equal member of the family who just doesn’t have enough life experience yet.

Formula the truth of parental love

“I love you not because you are good”,

and “I love you because you exist.”

Rules for parents

• Rule 1 - recognition of the child’s identity and integrity.
• Rule 2 - formation of adequate self-esteem.
• Rule 3 - introducing the child to the real affairs of the family.
• Rule 4 - develop the child's willpower.
• Rule 5 - learn to plan.
• Rule 6 - demand fulfillment of household duties and errands.
• Rule 7 - teach how to communicate with other children and people.
• Rule 8 - to form moral qualities: kindness, decency, empathy, mutual assistance, responsibility.

Love and appreciate your Family!

A.S. Makarenko wrote:

“If you want good children, be happy.”

THANK YOU

School-wide parent meeting:

"The role of the family in raising children"

Good evening, dear parents. You are people who have different characters, different views on life, different destinies, but there is one thing that unites you - these are your children, boys and girls, who can become grief or joy. How and what you need to do to make your child become your happiness, so that one day you can say to yourself: “Life has happened!” So, the topic of our conversation "The role of the family in raising children."

I would like to begin my speech with the words of a German writer Sebastian Brant :

The child learns

What does he see in his home?

Parents are an example of this.

Who is rude in front of his wife and children,

Who loves the language of debauchery,

Let him remember that he will receive more than

From them everything that teaches them .

Family plays an important role in shaping a person's personality. Parents are the child's first educators and teachers. In everyday communication with his parents, he learns to explore the world, imitates adults, gains life experience, and learns norms of behavior. The family is the leading factor in the development of a child’s personality, on which the future fate of a person largely depends. Family education, in its strength and effectiveness, is incomparable to any other, even highly qualified education. The new philosophy of interaction between family and school is based on the idea thatParents are responsible for raising children, and all other social institutions, including the school, are called upon to help, support, guide and supplement their educational activities, but no more. The school also educates children. Most of the rights of parents are at the same time their responsibility, which, on the one hand, emphasizes the responsibility of parents for their children, and on the other hand, guarantees them that it is they, and not someone else, who has the right to raise and educate their children. children. To prove my words, I will read a few lines from the Family Code of the Republic of Kazakhstan.

Article 70. Rights and responsibilities of parents for the upbringing and education of a child

1. Parents are obliged to take care of the health of their child.

2. Parents have the right and obligation to raise their child.

Parents have a priority right to raise their child over all other persons.

Parents raising a child are responsible for providing the necessary living conditions for his physical, mental, moral and spiritual development.

3. Parents are obliged to ensure that their child receives compulsory secondary education.

Parents, taking into account the child’s opinion, have the right to choose the organization of education and the form of education of the child until he receives general secondary education.

All issues related to the upbringing and education of the child are resolved by the parents by mutual consent based on the interests of the child and taking into account his opinion. Parents, if there are disagreements between them, have the right to apply for resolution of these disagreements to the body exercising the functions of guardianship or trusteeship, or to the court.

Of course, the question arises of how to raise your child with dignity, how to protect him from everything negative that surrounds him. How to teach him to say no to bad habits? When raising children, situations often arise when you talk to them - but they don’t listen, they say, we know, you persuade - they don’t listen, you raise your voice - they don’t react, if you shout - they cry. Well, what to do with them? And here, in my opinion, another question arises. What should a child do with us parents - gloomy, irritable, tired, always in a hurry and always busy? This means you need to start with yourself, look at yourself from the outside and find time for your child: talk with him every day on various topics: how his day went, what worries him, what he dreams about, what problems he has, etc. And then we will find out how our child lives, what he thinks about, what he worries about. And then we will be able to provide help to our child in time, so that later we do not wave our hands and admit that we are powerless.

Children, in mathematical terms, are derivatives of their parents. Derived from you, because you brought them into the world. The tone in the family is set by the parents, not the children. And even if the child is a tyrant, and his parents are obedient slaves, they allowed it, they allowed such a balance of power! After all, a child can be compared to a house with many, many windows. Whatever property you call out, that’s what will appear. Try to shout out the good more often and don’t wake up the bad with unnecessary shouts. The world of a child is you, his parents, his family. Therefore, when you stop talking to him, it seems to the child that the whole world has turned its back on him. And then the problems begin. Chinese thinker, Xun Tzu, who lived before our era. , said: “Newborns cry the same everywhere. When they grow up, they have different habits. This is the result of upbringing.”

Dear parents! Today, teenage smoking is a problematic topic in the world. Therefore, at today's meeting we will talk about the problem of developing nicotine addiction in children and how parents can help their child resist this insidious temptation.

Teen smoking is rapidly increasing. The issue of teenage smoking is of great concern to both teachers and parents; no one wants their children to smoke. But the views of teenagers and young people on the issue of smoking are ambiguous, so the problem of “fathers and children” often arises. Unfortunately, parents are not always at their best in this dispute, because, firstly, they themselves are not bearers of a positive example; and secondly, they don’t know their children well: what they talk about, what they think about, how they choose their image and lifestyle, and what place the cigarette has in this process.

The fact that the topic of conversation is relevant is evidenced by the results of a student survey and official statistics. So, the facts of official statistics:

more than 80% of smokers acquired this habit before the age of 18;

According to the World Health Organization, 80% of children who smoke regularly continue to smoke as adults;

if a teenager has smoked at least two cigarettes, then in 70% of cases he will smoke throughout his life;

According to surveys of doctors and sociologists, by the age of 12, 30% had tried cigarettes, by the age of 14 – 55%, and by the age of 15 – 65%. Every 10th smoker already suffers from nicotine addiction by the age of 15.

We also conducted a small survey of students at our school (from 2nd to 11th grade). And what did we get?

Questionnaire for students

11. How do you study?

Great. (eleven %)

Fine. (51%)

Average (satisfactory). (37%)

Unsatisfactory. (10 %)

2. Do your parents and relatives smoke?

Yes. (49%)

No. (38%)

Occasionally. (11 %)

Yes. (25%)

No. (49%)

Occasionally. ( 20 %)

Yes. (10 %)

No. (50 %)

Occasionally. (17 %)

Yes. (2%)

No. (51%)

Occasionally. (5 %)

Yes. (22%)

No. (33%)

Occasionally. (10 %)

Yes. (3%)

No. (76%)

Occasionally. (4 %)

3. Do you smoke?

Yes. (3%)

No. (95%)

Occasionally. (3 %)

At school. (0.5%)

In company. (0.5%)

4. Why do you think teenagers most often start smoking?

With nothing to do. (34%)

For company. (32%)

Fashionable. (12 %)

Following the example of loved ones. (eleven %)

5. In some families, parents smoke. How do you feel about this?

Fine. (0.5%)

Badly. (67%)

I don't care. (35%)

6. Is it good to smoke?

Yes. (0.2%)

No. (84%)

Don't know. (13 %)

Conclusions: Students at our school have high self-esteem. In their opinion, 62% are good and excellent students, and the real figure at the end of the first quarter is 41%. Among parents: mothers and grandmothers account for 13% and 7% of smokers; for fathers and grandfathers: 60% and 32%; for brothers and sisters: 15% and 7%. These data indicate that our students quite often see their loved ones smoking next to them. 3% of students are active smokers and 3% smoke occasionally. If we rank the reasons why teenagers most often start smoking, we can see the following:

I want to be an adult. (42%)

With nothing to do. (34%)

For company. (32%)

Curious, pampering. (15 %)

Following the example of loved ones. (eleven %)

Fashionable. (12 %)

Calms and lifts your spirits. (9 %)

If we compare the answer: “I study satisfactorily” (37%) and “Unsatisfactorily” (3%) with the answer “Teenagers start smoking because they have nothing to do” (34%), then we can assume: are these not the same students? Of course, for us and I think for you, this is a question.

To the questions: How do you feel about smoking? “I don’t care,” answered 35% of students. And to the question: Is it good to smoke? – 13% of students answered “I don’t know.” And this, in my opinion, suggests that this group of guys is most susceptible to this temptation. This is the so-called risk group. This means that we teachers and you parents have something to work on. This is data for the school; you can discuss the results of the class survey in more detail with your class teachers.

Class teachers throughout the school year plan and conduct various hours of communication with their students about a healthy lifestyle.

What anti-smoking measures can you, parents, use? How can you help your child not succumb to this temptation?

Measures to prevent smoking and ways to counter the negative influence from the social environment may be the following:

organizing children’s free time, involving them in sports and creative activities (clubs, sections, family hobbies);

personal example (not smoking, constantly demonstrating your negative attitude towards smoking, quit smoking);

preventive conversations about the dangers of smoking;

using positive examples of famous personalities;

supporting the child in his endeavors, respecting his views;

organization of family leisure (trips to nature, dacha; participation in city holidays);

control of studies, behavior, study of the child’s circle of friends;

introducing restrictions, monitoring the child’s spending of pocket money;

teaching a child the ability to refuse an offer to smoke.

The effectiveness of the proposed forms and methods of preventive work depends on compliance with the principles of family tobacco prevention, which include:

Systematicity.

Flexible control.

Patience and delicacy.

Individual approach.

Support.

Visibility.

To help a child avoid the smoking habit, parents need to make a lot of effort. But the most important thing is be in love your child, understand him and be ready always to help. Only then will all the proposed forms and methods be effective and efficient.

Russian pharmacologist, Ivan Mikhailovich Dogel, said: “Today I intend to talk about tobacco as a person’s whim and misfortune.” Indeed, smoking is a person’s whim and misfortune, but everyone makes their own choice. By raising our children, we can help them avoid bad habits.

I suggest you watch the video “Children see, children do”

I will repeat once again the statement of Xiong Tzu: “Newborns cry the same everywhere. When they grow up, they have different habits. This is the result of upbringing.”

Take care of your children

Don't scold them for their pranks.

The evil of your bad days

Never take it out on them.

Don't be seriously angry with them

Even if they did something wrong,

There is nothing more expensive than tears

That the eyelashes of relatives have rolled off.

If you feel tired

I can’t cope with her,

Well, my son will come to you

Or your daughter will extend her hands.

Hug them tight

Treasure children's affection

Is this happiness? A short moment

Hurry up to be happy.

After all, they will melt like snow in the spring,

These golden days will flash by

And they will leave their native hearth

Your children have grown up.

Flipping through the album

With childhood photographs

Remember with sadness the past

About those days when we were together.

How will you want

Return again at this time

To sing a song to them little ones,

Touch your cheeks with gentle lips.

And while there is children's laughter in the house,

There's no escape from toys

You are the happiest person in the world,

Please take care of your childhood.

Thank you for your attention. Good luck to you in raising your children!